“Greet one another with a kiss of love. Peace to you all who are in Christ Jesus. Amen” (1 Peter 5:14).
In addition to this reference to “a kiss of love“ here in 1 Peter 5:14, this type of greeting also appears in the Biblical books of Romans, 1 Corinthians, 2 Corinthians, and 1 Thessalonians as well. This represented a customary form of greeting in the Biblical era and remains popular among many cultures today.
Although this may seem to be little more than a cordial way to end this letter, it actually provides us with an opportunity to reflect upon the important concept of “principle and practice.” For instance, let’s consider the modern-day implications of this verse. If current social or cultural norms prevent us from greeting each other in this manner, do we violate this Biblical guideline as a result? In responding to that question, one scholar offers the following perspective…
“…there is a difference between command and culture. The commands of Scripture are absolute—culture is relative. For example, few believe that Jesus’ command to His disciples not to have an extra pair of sandals with them while on an evangelistic tour applies today. And most Christians do not literally ‘Greet all the brethren with a holy kiss’ anymore (1 Thes. 5:26). Nor do they believe that ‘lifting up holy hands in prayer’ is essential to public prayer (1 Tim. 2:8).
There is a principle behind all these commands that is absolute, but the practice is not. What Christians must do is absolute, but how they do it is culturally relative. For example, Christians must greet one another (the what), but how they greet each other will be relative to their respective cultures. In some cultures, as in the NT, it will be with a kiss, in others with a hug, and in still others with a handshake.” (1)
So this form of greeting conveyed warmth, approval, and a sense of belonging in the cultural context of Peter’s era. Today, there may be different (and more suitable) means of demonstrating those qualities depending on the culture or the individual. Since the Biblical book of Romans advises us to “give preference to one another in honor” (Romans 12:10), we would do well to consider these factors in our interactions with others.
Ultimately, it is better to demonstrate respect and affection in a gracious, considerate, and culturally appropriate manner, for that holds greater significance than the mere display of physical affection.
(1) When Critics Ask: A Popular Handbook on Bible Difficulties (Wheaton, Ill.: Victor Books, 1992). © 2014 Norman Geisler and Thomas Howe. All rights reserved